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Small Wins, Big Changes: Mastering Consistency and Building Self-Trust

• Lacy Wafer • Season 2 • Episode 51

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Ready to conquer your all-or-nothing mindset and transform how you approach your goals? Learn how to break free from the cycle of perfectionism and procrastination in our latest episode of BADASS MINDSET PODCAST. I'm Lacy, your host, and today we're tackling how this restrictive mentality impacts everything from fitness to relationships and career aspirations. You'll discover practical insights into why we often wait for the "perfect" moment and how this leads to missed opportunities and stagnation.

In our journey to overcome this mindset, we’ll address the fears and misconceptions that hold us back, particularly in health and wellness. Ever started a diet or workout plan only to feel like a failure when you hit a bump in the road? We'll explore why this happens, and I'll share strategies to break tasks into small, manageable steps that keep you moving forward without feeling overwhelmed! Learn how to balance effort and rest effectively to avoid burnout and maintain steady progress toward your long-term goals.

Finally, I'll guide you through building consistency and trust in yourself by embracing the strategy of "chunking down"—starting with tiny, achievable actions. We'll discuss how these small wins help rebuild your self-trust and make larger goals attainable. Plus, I'll share personal stories and offer encouragement to embrace your inner badass, commit to becoming the best version of yourself, and celebrate every victory along the way. Join me in this empowering episode and let's redefine success together—follow along and share your breakthroughs with me on Instagram @boldlylacy !

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Hey, babe, welcome, or welcome back to the Badass Mindset Podcast. I'm your host, laci, and I'm going to help you train your brain and your body to manifest groundbreaking levels of health, happiness and success in your life. I'm so fired up. You're here because it is time for us as a society to rewrite the outdated belief that wanting and achieving more is greedy, selfish or just wishful thinking. We're about to go on a deep dive into mindset mastery, where you'll learn all about how to rewire your brain, turn your setbacks into your success story and awaken the ultimate badass that lives within you. So if you're ready to create some serious magic and epic results in your life, take a quick minute to set an intention for what you want to get out of listening to this episode, and then let's fucking go.

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Hey, hey, happy Monday. Welcome back to another episode of Badass Mindset Podcast. I'm super excited to be here. I'm super excited for this topic because I just recently joined this Facebook group, fitness and Wellness for Busy Ladies. The group creator and admin, alejandra, invited me in to help support the ladies with the mindset aspect of their journey Because, as we can all probably agree, a big part of your overall fitness and wellness journey is mental and emotional, and I accepted without hesitation, because I absolutely love talking about mindset, how to rewire your brain, all the things Shout out to my girls from the group if any of you are here listening to this right now. But I wanted to do this episode because we were talking about this recently and this topic used to come up almost every week when I used to do health and wellness coaching for women. It was a pretty big struggle across the boards and it's something that I've been able to overcome. That has helped me so, so much in my journey, not just with health and wellness, but with entrepreneurship, with my peace and sanity at home in my relationships, and I'm pretty passionate about this topic.

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So what we're talking about is all or nothing mentality. So in this episode, I'm going to explain what is all or nothing mentality. I'm going to give some of the upsides because, believe it or not, there are some upsides to it. I'm going to give the downsides how to spot it, how to know if you have all or nothing mentality, or if your friend or family member has all or nothing mentality and, of course, how to beat if it's getting the best of you. So, first things first what is all or nothing mentality. Well, all or nothing mentality. Well, all or nothing mentality is the idea that if something isn't perfect, that it's not worth doing having being and all or nothing.

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People tend to be either all in or all out. This can apply to work relationships, physical performance, hobbies, emotional well-being, like you name it. I'm sure you can think of a time when you were all in or all out on something, and I always use the fitness example, but that's because it's so easy to use with a lot of these topics. But have you ever found yourself saying well, I don't want to start this new program because I'm not able to be fully committed yet. My schedule is a little crazy and I'm just not able to be all in. I want to wait until I'm ready to fully commit myself into it. Does that sound familiar? Maybe you've used that with something else and not the workout example, but you get the idea what I want to highlight.

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The only reason that people struggle with this is because there are upsides. If there was no benefit, then it'd be so easy to not let it affect you. It's obviously supporting you in some way, even if only temporarily, if you've ever struggled with it. So the first upside is the commitment level. All or nothing mentality allows you to not have to fully commit. It lets you dabble without any pressure. It lets you off the hook. If you say you're going to do something but then you don't follow through, it really makes it easy for you to be flaky and to not show up. And that's nice, because we have enough pressure and obligations going on in our lives. So it's nice to have one area where that's not being held against us and we can get off the hook if we mess up. Right, that's the first upside.

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The second upside is that all or nothing mentality is inside of the comfort zone. It's easy to quit or to not show up when you don't feel like it. It's hard to push past the discomfort and to show up anyways when you don't feel like it. That's hard. That's outside of the comfort zone. The unfortunate part of that is that growth only happens outside of the comfort zone. Growth doesn't happen inside of the comfort zone. So all or nothing mentality doesn't help you in that aspect, but it does help you stay comfortable. It helps you stay safe in an emotional sense.

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And you might be listening to these and thinking Lacey, those sound bad. They don't sound like positives or advantages, but whether you realize it or not, if this is something you've ever struggled with, some part of you did benefit from this. In a relationship situation, all-or-nothing mentality might have kept you from being vulnerable and getting your heart broken. In your career whether it be in a traditional 9-to-5 type role or an entrepreneurial role all-or-nothing mentality might have supported you because it kept you from feeling or looking like a failure if things didn't work out the way you wanted them to. Maybe the first business venture didn't thrive the way you hoped. Maybe you didn't get the promotion. Maybe somebody else got selected for the promotion and in your fitness routine, maybe all-or-nothing mentality supported you because at the end of the day, when you didn't get the result you were looking for, you had the excuse well, I wasn't really fully committed, I had all these other things going on, so I wasn't really showing up and giving it my all. It's really just a cop-out. It stops you from feeling like a loser or a failure. That's supportive to your ego. That's supportive to your emotional wellness. So, again, if you've ever struggled with this all-or-nothing mentality and maybe you've beat yourself up over it now that you know it was actually supporting you. Maybe you can look at it differently. Maybe you can take a step back and say you know what? All this time I thought you were working against me, but now I see that you were actually trying to help me. You were actually supporting me, not in the way I was intending for you to, but you were helping me in some way. I thank you for your service and now you can go Exit stage left. So now that we've covered the upsides, now we're going to cover the downsides. These are a little more obvious, but we're going to cover them anyway.

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Obviously, all or nothing mentality is limiting. If you can only commit to something or show up for something when you are 100% in, you can give 100% effort, no distractions, no roadblocks, nothing. You're not going to be able to make a lot of progress because, let's be honest, how often are you able to be all in on anything? How often are you able to be 100% all the time or on all attempts at anything? That's just not realistic. So if you only wait until you feel 100% or you have nothing else going on, no roadblocks or detours, then you're not showing up very consistently and that is holding you back from making progress. Right, that goes right into the next downside. Progress is rare With all or nothing mentality, progress is rare Because if you can't show up consistently, you can't get into a groove, you're not able to build up strength or momentum.

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You're constantly having to start from square zero. Maybe you've heard this analogy before, but getting the ball rolling requires an abundance of energy. But as soon as you get that ball rolling, the energy required for it to keep rolling is nothing, it's light, that's momentum. And then, when you really nail down consistency, that's where we get into magical territory. That's where the compound effect comes into play. Getting started, that's the hardest part. Once you can get started and start staying started, it's a magical place, babe, it's a magical place. So that's the second downside.

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The third downside to all-or-nothing mentality is that trust is easily lost with others and with yourself. If you only show up and follow through on what you committed yourself to when you're feeling like it, when you're able to be all in, then you are not reliable like it, I mean, think about it. What if you were only loyal to your partner on the days that you felt like being loyal? Nobody would trust you, right, you would be fired or broken up with, probably because trust would be lost. Well, you do the same with yourself every time. You don't do what you said you were going to do. All or nothing mentality is precisely what is stopping many of you from following through on your commitments and showing up to do what you said you were going to do. All or nothing mentality kills self-trust. It kills confidence, and there's so many.

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But the last downside I'm going to touch on is all or nothing mentality makes basic tasks become difficult. I'm talking about very basic tasks like just showing up. What if I told you all you had to do was just show up? You didn't have to do any work, you didn't have to expend any energy, you just had to show up and then you're good. It'd be pretty easy, right.

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Well, when you're stuck in this cycle of all or nothing mentality, even the most basic of tasks become very difficult. It's like when you have so many things on your to-do list that it's overwhelming and you do none of them. Ooh, that one used so bad. Your never-ending chore list or your never-ending errands list. When you have to be in the perfect energy or state of mind to do anything and that's the only way you'll do it. It makes even the most basic of tasks feel like scaling a mountain. I mean, one of the chores could be literally move laundry from washer to dryer, and that task all by itself isn't that bad. But when you add do the dishes, cook dinner, take out the trash, sweep and mop, make the beds, pick up the toys, all these things right, it feels overwhelming. And so you do nothing instead because you don't have the energy to do all that shit today. Ain't nobody got time for that. I could go on and on about this, but you get the idea.

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All or nothing mentality makes basic tasks very difficult and, like I said, the downsides are a lot more obvious. Some of those you probably resonated with right away. They stood out to you. You're like oh yeah, I know I struggle with that, or I know somebody who struggles with that. But here's some more subtle ways to spot all or nothing mentality if it's not just blatantly obvious, because it could be getting you subconsciously and you don't even realize that you're in this cycle. If you ever use terms like always or never I always do this, or this always happens, or I never followed through I never see it through all the way to the end. Terms like always and never are a big sign of all or nothing mentality.

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Back when I used to do health and wellness coaching for women, one of the common fears I would hear when we were doing clarity calls to determine if we were a good fit to work together would be I always start off so strong, so motivated, so into it, and then I fall off and I feel like I just let go, I lose myself and I start back over at square one. I really don't want that to happen. That's their big fear is that they're going to just do it again. Then it's going to be a waste of money, a waste of time, a waste of getting their hopes up that things might be different this time. And it's just because they haven't learned how to rewire their brain, all the things I'd be trying to teach you on this podcast how to change their perspective, reframe their thoughts. But those are some big signs that you might be living in the cycle of all or nothing mentality.

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Another subtle sign is the inability to see any alternatives or solutions when a problem arises. So this one, I feel like, is easier to spot in others, maybe because of a little bit of self-denial. We don't like to think of ourselves as closed-minded people. We like to think that, no, if we're presented with more information, that we wouldn't be closed off, we'd be open to receiving better options or solutions. So it's super easy to spot in others, not so easy to spot in ourself.

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But have you ever been in a conversation with someone where they're complaining or venting, they're presenting a problem and you're like I can think of three solutions right off the bat, and whether they allow you to speak to those solutions or not, they're either not hearing it or they're closed off to whatever your ideas were. They're like no, that's not going to work, that still doesn't change anything and they're not willing to try. They're not willing to hear you out. That is a big telltale sign of all or nothing mentality. It has to be this way or no way. Maybe you've been this person before. It's okay if you have we all have, I certainly have but until you're aware of it, there's not much you can do. Right, you got to become aware of it to change it. So if you have ever caught yourself in this cycle, you can breathe in knowing that hey, now at least I'm aware of it. And now I'm about to learn how to beat it. I'm about to add some tools to my tool belt, some solutions so that I don't have to stay stuck in this cycle anymore. That's what I'm going to give you now. I'm going to give you the tools.

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If you ever catch yourself back in a cycle of all or nothing mentality, whether it be in your fitness or wellness routine, your relationship, your career or work, first thing you're going to do is just remember that the little things make up the big picture, like a puzzle piece. You've got all these little pieces that make up the big picture. All you need to ask yourself is what's the very next step? Not what all do I have to do this week, what all do I have to do today, not even what all do I have to do this hour. Break it down to what is the very next step, what is the one thing that I have to do next? That is it. That is how you break out of all or nothing mentality.

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If you're not motivated to go to the gym, what is just the very next step? Is it to put on your tennis shoes? Is it to just get your ass in the car and drive to the gym? What if you just drove there and that was it. You can turn right back around, you go home, or you can decide when you get there what you feel like doing. Next Chances are if you got yourself there. Once you're there, you're probably going to have a little bit more energy and motivation to take the next step. That next step might be just getting on the treadmill, starting to move a little or stretching, something like that. When you break it down into a bite-sized, teeny, tiny chunk, it's not so daunting and it's easy to get yourself moving forward, making progress again, getting that ball rolling.

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The next step to be all-or-nothing mentality is to practice discernment. There are some days when you genuinely do need to do nothing. You need to rest, take a step back, take a break. I am not telling you to be hashtag. No days off, grind every day. That's all or nothing mentality. That's what perpetuates that cycle of being all in or all out, go hard or go home.

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I know a lot of us who grew up playing sports or being around competitive family or people. This mentality was ingrained in us. Give it 100% or don't waste my time right. But we need to get better at practicing discernment, knowing when we're being all or nothing about something or when we actually do need to take a step back and maybe take a break, because consistency is what's going to get you to the goal that you want. Making small progress towards your goals daily are what's going to build the momentum and the compound effect to get you there, to get you exponential results and success. But there are days where we need to chill. We need to take a step back. Maybe skip some of the to-do list, skip the gym, skip all the tedious thing and have a genuine rest day, because if we don't, our body's going to force us to.

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I've seen it time and time again. I've gone through it Burnout, exhaustion. I know people who have landed themselves in the hospital because they did not rest when they needed to. So there is a time, there's a time and a place to take a pause, take a breather. But you've really got to practice that discernment and don't use that as an excuse to not show up, because then you're going to get yourself right back into that all or nothing mentality. Well, I don't feel like it today. I'm really tired. Well, is it because you just didn't sleep the best last night? Is it because you're letting little things stress you that you shouldn't be letting stress you? Did you just have a long day today, or are you in a really busy season of life? Are you going through something extremely stressful right now that is causing your stress levels as a whole to be extremely high? There's that little bit of discernment to know when am I just using this as a cop-out, as an excuse, and when is this a legit reason to not show up.

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The next step to be all or nothing mentality is to follow through on something tiny to gain trust back. So one of my favorite examples ever of this was this older, overweight man who really wanted to get himself in shape, get healthy and get himself in the gym consistently. He struggled with all or nothing mentality. He struggled with showing up and going through that start again, stop again, cycle every other week. This is what he did to beat that.

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First he made a commitment to himself to just get dressed for the gym every single day. He wasn't going to go, he just had to get dressed as if he was going to go. Then, once he got that down, it wasn't a question. He knew he was going to show up and do it. He gained his trust back. He started driving to the gym. He started driving to the gym every day, got himself to the gym parking lot and then if he felt like working out, he would go inside. If he didn't, he would turn right around and go back home. But the commitment was I'm going to drive to the gym on these days that I have predetermined and he did. He got consistent with that.

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As you can probably see the natural progression here. His next step in this goal was I'm going to drive to the gym, get on the treadmill for five minutes and if I decide to keep going, I will keep going. If I decide I'm done, I don't want to do anymore, I have permission to leave. There's nobody holding him accountable to this. Nobody's holding a gun to his head. Nobody's saying if you don't do this, you're going to have this consequence and if you do do this, you're going to have this reward. This is just him building trust with himself. He did this for a while. He got consistent at showing up to the gym, getting on the treadmill for at least five minutes. And this guy was severely overweight I think he lost almost 200 pounds but he started with these tiny, tiny commitments and prioritized following through so that he could gain his trust back with himself and build that habit of consistency.

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I love, love, love that story, because one of the big habits that I always teach is chunking down, like if something feels too overwhelming, that feels like you would have to expend a large amount of energy to accomplish it, so you don't want to do any of it, how can we chunk it down to the smallest, tiniest, bite-sized thing towards like okay, well, that wouldn't be so bad If just driving to the gym is too much for you to follow through on. Well, what about starting with just putting on the workout clothes? And if just putting on the workout clothes is still too much, you're like Lacey, this is embarrassing, but that still feels like too much. What if you predetermine three or four days a week and you just set out your clothes the night before? You set them up in a convenient spot. That will be there. You have to walk past them, you can't miss them, but you see they're there and they might spark a little motivation for you. When you see it, you're like okay, I think I have the energy today, I think I'll do it, and if you don't, that's okay.

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Your commitment wasn't to put on the clothes and go to the gym and have this hour-long workout that was intense and burned all this energy. Hour-long workout that was intense and burned all this energy. Your commitment to yourself was to just put the workout clothes out, and you followed through on that, because you're a bad bitch, you're a queen and you always do what you say you're going to do. Is this sparking any ideas for you? This makes me so excited because it gets to be easy. It really doesn't have to be that hard, and this is something that I know everyone struggles or has struggled with at some point in their life but it's super easy to beat.

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Truly, if you actually go through the steps, when you start to gain your trust back from following through on little things, then you start to trust yourself more with bigger goals and bigger commitments. And that's important because if you make a huge commitment right now, or what feels like a huge commitment, but you already don't have trust with yourself, then you don't feel as bad if you don't follow through or if you don't show up. It just speeds into that belief or that identity that, hey, I always quit when it gets hard or when it gets to this point. This is what I always do anyway, so it doesn't really affect you that much and then it just even more deeply ingrains into your subconscious and your identity that that's who you are and that's what you do.

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But when you start to gain your trust back with little things and you start believing in yourself to make bigger commitments and to go for bigger goals, then you also have a little more incentive to show up for those bigger goals, to put in the effort for those bigger goals. You have more belief in yourself, more confidence, and you have more incentive because you don't want to lose your trust again. Now you want to keep being that person who shows up, who follows through, who does what she says she's going to do, who succeeds and it's not your willpower that wants to, it's your subconscious, it's your brain succeeds, and it's not your willpower that wants to, it's your subconscious, it's your brain. Our brains are wired to act and feel in alignment with who we believe ourselves to be, how we identify. So if we identify as a confident follow-through-er, achiever, whatever word, right Succeeder, if that's how we identify and know ourselves, our brain will do anything and everything possible to create the conditions, emotionally and energetically, so that we will take whatever actions that reinforces that identity, whether it's positive or negative. So it's really important that we gain that trust and then we use it to build upon, because once you start trusting yourself and once you start following through on your goals and achieving and succeeding well, now you've gotten your subconscious on board too. Your subconscious is going to be like, yeah, no, we do feel like doing this. That's who we are. We show up, we're consistent, we follow through, we do what we say we're going to do and you have a more natural energy that's working in your favor. I could talk about this forever. It's like my favorite thing ever, seriously the neuroscience side of me coming out. So the third thing was to follow through on something tiny to gain your trust back, and you just keep building on that.

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The fourth step to beat all or nothing mentality is to keep simple things simple. Don't overcomplicate anything. Mentality is to keep simple things simple, don't overcomplicate anything. If you understand that consistency is key and showing up consistently over a long period of time is what gets you the results you're looking for, then don't overcomplicate showing up. If you have fitness goals and you're prioritizing consistency and you're having an off day, then just go for a walk or whatever feels like a low energy expenditure for you. Keep it simple. If you ever see my Instagram stories, this is where daily movement rooted from. I lost over 75 pounds in about eight months when I made the commitment to just show up every day and walk for at least 15 minutes. That was my small commitment. Now I've built upon that since then and every day wasn't only a 15 minute walk. Some days I did an hour, some days I lifted, some days I did a class or something fun like a hike or danced in my living room. But hashtag daily movement came from that and I'm proud to say I've been moving my body daily, almost daily, for four years and it's changed my life.

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If you're an entrepreneur and you got to show up online, you got to talk about the business, show your face. Keep simple things simple. If you have the time, the energy, the creativity to make cute graphics and do elaborate videos, great, more power to you. But if you don't keep simple things simple, put black text on a white screen in the notes app on your phone, screenshot it and post it. Don't perfectly curate your video, record and upload. Don't get all dressed up, don't make sure the lighting is perfect, don't carefully think through everything you have to say I mean you can, but don't treat it as though you have to do all of these things in order to post or show up. If that's stopping you from showing up, then keep simple things simple, just show up. Side note raw and uncurated content actually is performing better today anyways, pretty much across the boards Instagram, facebook, tiktok so it may be working against you to be using all that time and energy and effort.

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Anyways, I won't speak in absolute terms on that. It could be wrong, it could be your thing or part of your brand, but just know, in 99% of cases you're overcomplicating it. Just keep simple things simple. So I'll end it with this. We all get caught in this cycle from time to time, whether intentionally or unintentionally, especially if it's something that we're passionate about, we really care about right. It's not a bad thing. It just means we really care, we really want to succeed or do good. It's not a bad thing, just means we really care, we really want to succeed or do good. But at the end of the day, done is better than perfect, and I have to emphasize this because I used to always hear and I know you've heard this before too if you can't do something right, don't do it at all if you can't show up 100%. Don't waste my time, don't come at all. But that mentality is so limiting. A half-assed effort is still better than no effort. I stand by that firmly.

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Lastly, a mantra for you progress over perfection. When in doubt, what's going to help you progress, not what's going to help you be perfect. What's going to help you make progress in the direction you want to go? Because, at the end of the day, all you need is a little bit of consistency. Baby steps in the right direction will still get you there eventually, but huge leaps followed by crickets will keep you starting back all the way over at square one. It doesn't pause you where you're at. It sets you back. You don't sustain what you can't maintain. You have to keep at it. If you don't use it, you lose it. So consistency is key, and long-term consistency beats short-term intensity. Okay, I hope that lit a fire under your booty.

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I want you to reflect for a minute after this episode is over and ask yourself if you are being all or nothing about anything in your life currently. Are you working on any goals that you haven't been consistently showing up for? And if the answer is yes, I want you to go through the steps, the steps we just talked about. I'll repeat them for you. Remember that the little things make up the big picture. Ask yourself what's the very next step? Just the next step. Just one thing Practice, discernment Determine. Is this a moment to push through the discomfort or is this a moment to take a step back and to reevaluate, or reset and then follow through on something tiny, to gain your trust back and keep simple things simple. Go through those steps and figure out what's the move, what's the next step for you. How can you talk this down? And then I want you to take action on it immediately. If you're like Lacey it's 3 am here, I'm not getting up to do this right now, I should be asleep Then I want you to pull out your handy dandy calendar and schedule it in.

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You have to take some type of action to solidify that you're doing the thing. Okay, and whatever your action is, I want you to send it to me. There's a link right at the top of the show notes where you can share stories or ask questions to have answered on a future episode. I want you to tell me your situation. What were you being all or nothing about. What are you doing to beat it? What was the very next step that you came up with and when are you doing it? Share that with me in the link, or find me on Instagram at Boldly Lacey or at Badass Mindset Podcast and share it with me there.

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I'm going to hold you accountable and support you so that you get out of this cycle of all or nothing mentality. Okay, if you want different results, you've got to take different actions. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. So if you're not getting the outcomes you want, you do something different. I'm giving you a way to do that right now. Take the steps and then send to me what you're doing. Let the universe and your subconscious know that you're serious by taking this action and sharing it with someone else, that you're going to do this, and then show up and go do it.

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All right, thank you for being here. I'm so proud of you for showing up today. I hope you're proud of yourself. Give yourself a pat on the back. This was a little tough love for you today, but you got this. Give yourself a pat on the back. This was a little tough love for you today, but you got this. You're never too far gone. You're never too far behind. You can always turn your situation around with just a little bit of intention, little bit of belief in yourself and a little kick in the rear. I love you. I hope you have an amazing week, please.

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Please, reach out to me anytime if you have any questions or any stories you want to share, any ahas or breakthrough moments. I genuinely love hearing them. I love connecting with you and I'll do anything I can to support you on your journey to becoming a badass which newsflash you already are. Sometimes you just need a reminder or a little kick in the rear to unleash her and let her run the show. I'm happy to be that for you, if I can.

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All right, I'll see you next week. Babe, thank you so much for being here and, queen, give yourself a high five for showing up and committing to be the best version of yourself for you and your people. You are such a badass for that. If you got anything good from this episode, would you send the love back by DMing me on Instagram at Boldly Lacey, letting me know exactly which part resonated with you? These types of messages empower me to keep showing up, and they also help me understand the types of conversations you really care about. All right, bestie, we'll talk again soon, but for now, it's time for you to step up and start being the badass that we both know you are.